Ok Mars,
I will admit, I watch Love & Hip Hop and the finale was on the other night. All I want to say is Chrissy (rapper Jim Jones girlfriend) is a strong and sophisticated young lady. She has standards and although she has been "living in sin" (her exact words) with Jim Jones for 6 years; she's adamant about getting married and having children. In that order!
After waiting patiently for Jones to "grow up", she decided to propose to him. Well, his M-O-T-H-E-R, as she likes to spell out (with her crazy self) had a hissy fit. What does Jones do? Nothing! He sits back and allows his mother and girlfriend to go at it, but never too far in front of him.
I'm saying all this just to say, Jim Jones is a Mama's Boy! This characteristic is fine, if your under age 10 but by his 20's and 30's, and after he's found a woman that he loves; it's time to put those boyish ways aside. When a grown man, so he appears and like to believe he is; allows his mama to run his life, then he needs to do some serious soul searching. Mamas' too!
Mars, we can only be responsible for ourselves because even though they're our baby boys literally; they are not to be treated or psychologically considered as one. This is why I write to you. As our boys grow older, we need to make very sure that we've instilled in them the necessary qualities that should and will sustain them. This way they will not continue to be led by our ideologies. Mothers if you don't start to get a life by the time your boys become age 10, then you need to start now!
I want to keep this topic short so I will write part 2 in a few days, until then...remember you are not alone. We have a Father who is a very present help in our times of need, seek Him.
Blesses,
Jerri of Mars
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I'm single but not a parent. I just wanted to express my appreciation for a thoughtful blog. It's disappointing that Jim won't cut the apron strings and defend the woman he says he loves. What Jim doesn't understand is that NO WOMAN will ever be good enough for his mom. So the same drama will continue with any woman he dates until he grows a pair and takes a respectful but firm stand with his mom.
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