Good day Mars, ...continued from, "All About Eve"
As mentioned, we will go a little deeper into Cain; the first born of Adam and Eve. Cain's name sounds like "got" which basically means to acquire or to get. Genesis 3:20, ...Adam named his wife Eve, because she would become the mother of all who live. (Contemporary English Version) So, she gave life to Cain and he got or acquired life. You will find through this study how significant Cain's name predicted his life, remember Cain means "got".
See before this extensive study, I even thought Cain had it real bad. And he did but in the end he "got or acquired" a life; and a good one too. Let's get into his life and personality traits. This study was taken from Genesis 4, specifically. (CEV)
Genesis 4:3...Cain gave a part of his harvest to God. This tells us he was selfish.
Genesis 4:5...Cain was so angry because God was not pleased with his offering.
This tells us he had anger/emotional issues: jealousy, envy/strife.
Genesis 4:5...Cain couldn't hide his feelings.
Tells us he also displayed physical/impulsive emotions.
Genesis 4:7...God told him if he had only did the right thing.
Tells us he did not possess good decision making skills.
Genesis 4:8...Cain killed Abel. Tells us he was a murderer.
Genesis 4:9...God asked, where is your brother? Tells us he was not accountable
for others, sarcastic, disrespectful and a liar.(thru his answers to God)
Genesis 4:12...God said, the land you farm will not produce.
Tells us he was unproductive, cursed, poor and a wanderer.
Genesis 4:13...When God cursed and punished Cain, he responded that the
punishment was too hard. Tells us he was a complainer, irresponsible,
not liable for his actions, a castaway, separated from God, homeless,
and worried about being murdered himself.
These excerpts from the bible tell a lot about the very personality traits that Cain possessed. Seems and sounds familiar right? Our sons can and will have some of these same traits but the moral to this story is that God in His sovereignty never left Cain nor will He leave our sons. But mothers these blessings and promises only come through the salvation of Jesus Christ. If we're saved then He promised to save our household too. Remember, where as one man came death (Adam) and another came life (Jesus).
Throughout all of chapter 4 God was still available for Cain to inquire of Him. With God's tender mercy, loving kindness and endless compassion, He placed a mark on Cain as a form of protection that only He can supply. What really blew me away was in v14 Cain said, ...You're making me leave my home and live far from you...Even in Cain's disparity he never wanted to leave God's presence. He knew that in all his wrong doings that God our Father would never leave nor forsake him. God still reigns on the just and unjust.
In the end, Cain got life! Not the life sentence of utter dread and death, as the world does so freely gives, but a life of abundance. Genesis 4:17, gives joy in telling us this...17Later, Cain and his wife had a son named Enoch. At the time Cain was building a town, and so he named it Enoch after his son. Cain eventually got his life together, acquired a wife, built not a home but a town. He named his only son after that city, Enoch. Reassuring us of God's endless mercy. Hope you were as blessed as I was to receive this wisdom.
Love,
Jerri of Mars
Monday, October 24, 2011
Tuesday, October 18, 2011
All about Eve
Hey Mars, Thank God we're back together again! I pray the Lord has kept you all as He has also did the same for me. Please stay with us this next dispensation of time because the Lord is going to take us into deeper depths and higher heights. Time is over for mediocrity.
These next few months will be straight bible, Mars, particularly dealing with mothers and of course their sons. We will start in Genesis and work our way through unto Revelations. Let's not delay any further...
Genesis 4
Adam and Eve had their first born, a son she named Cain. Eve tells us that the Lord "helped her" so is the significance of his name. Biblical women were accustomed to naming their sons and/or children after their individual circumstances or things to come. Unlike the women of our time who do so for other reasons. However, we must not forget it's God, who brings us through the often painful plights of childbirth, in which Eve paid homage to. Remember, God does require us to hearken unto His voice for ALL advice. He spoke to Joseph in Matthew 1:21, to name the baby Mary was carrying, Jesus. In Hebrew, Jeshua: the one who will save man from his sins. The importance in naming our sons which often times speaks life and/or predicts their future.
Getting back to Eve, the Lord helped her. Her punishment for sin was that she would endure terrible suffering during childbirth. So as a parenthetical, she probably knew that if it had not been for the Lord who showed her mercy during child birthing, she might have died in doing so. You see Eve was not suppose to ever suffer, after all she lived in God's presence, where there is absolutely no suffering in that place. (Rev 21:3-4)
But God is sovereign, blessing and cursing whomever He chooses. Although Eve was cursed with suffering terribly during childbirth, she remembered that the Lord blessed her with His help to get her through, she bears witness to that testimony.
So Mars, remember that God blesses and curses not us! It is He who helps us, not man; and He will always have our best interest because He made us in His image and His likeness...Next time we will go deeper into the personality traits of Cain, its deep ya'll!
Love, Jerri of Mars
These next few months will be straight bible, Mars, particularly dealing with mothers and of course their sons. We will start in Genesis and work our way through unto Revelations. Let's not delay any further...
Genesis 4
Adam and Eve had their first born, a son she named Cain. Eve tells us that the Lord "helped her" so is the significance of his name. Biblical women were accustomed to naming their sons and/or children after their individual circumstances or things to come. Unlike the women of our time who do so for other reasons. However, we must not forget it's God, who brings us through the often painful plights of childbirth, in which Eve paid homage to. Remember, God does require us to hearken unto His voice for ALL advice. He spoke to Joseph in Matthew 1:21, to name the baby Mary was carrying, Jesus. In Hebrew, Jeshua: the one who will save man from his sins. The importance in naming our sons which often times speaks life and/or predicts their future.
Getting back to Eve, the Lord helped her. Her punishment for sin was that she would endure terrible suffering during childbirth. So as a parenthetical, she probably knew that if it had not been for the Lord who showed her mercy during child birthing, she might have died in doing so. You see Eve was not suppose to ever suffer, after all she lived in God's presence, where there is absolutely no suffering in that place. (Rev 21:3-4)
But God is sovereign, blessing and cursing whomever He chooses. Although Eve was cursed with suffering terribly during childbirth, she remembered that the Lord blessed her with His help to get her through, she bears witness to that testimony.
So Mars, remember that God blesses and curses not us! It is He who helps us, not man; and He will always have our best interest because He made us in His image and His likeness...Next time we will go deeper into the personality traits of Cain, its deep ya'll!
Love, Jerri of Mars
Wednesday, August 10, 2011
Saying "I love you"
Good day Mars,
Today is the day that the Lord has made let us rejoice and be glad in it! Mars let's make it our #1 priority to tell our young boys that we love them. Let's not just show them and write love off as putting a roof over their heads, food on the table, wiping away the tears but "tell" them, explicitly.
So in the future women don't have to deal with those men that have not a clue when it comes down to telling a woman this very same thing. You can meet a good guy, he can do all the right things minus his faults but he can't seem to muster up those three words. I can only speak for myself when I say, I really need to hear them.
First of all, God tells us all through the bible as Jesus does too. My earthly father always told me this so we practice what we know. So, its naturally in us to say it, from God.
I had a brother tell me that his mother never told him these three very or suppose to be, very natural words. So, now he looks at this or that time of sharing as something over analyzed and far too thought out. This can promote problems because I feel everyone needs to be told this without encouraging, nagging, guessing or asking, "do you love me?"
I can still only speak for myself but action does speak louder but sometimes at the expense of covering or concealing the actual reasons behind why can't you say it! Maybe you as a woman have this same issue, not all the time but if and when this issue arises, how do we respond?
Talk to me Mars...this is just my entitled opinion.
Remembering that only if they, our men, really feel love for us, women, really then can these words at particular times can be naturally said.
I love you,
Jerri of Mars
Today is the day that the Lord has made let us rejoice and be glad in it! Mars let's make it our #1 priority to tell our young boys that we love them. Let's not just show them and write love off as putting a roof over their heads, food on the table, wiping away the tears but "tell" them, explicitly.
So in the future women don't have to deal with those men that have not a clue when it comes down to telling a woman this very same thing. You can meet a good guy, he can do all the right things minus his faults but he can't seem to muster up those three words. I can only speak for myself when I say, I really need to hear them.
First of all, God tells us all through the bible as Jesus does too. My earthly father always told me this so we practice what we know. So, its naturally in us to say it, from God.
I had a brother tell me that his mother never told him these three very or suppose to be, very natural words. So, now he looks at this or that time of sharing as something over analyzed and far too thought out. This can promote problems because I feel everyone needs to be told this without encouraging, nagging, guessing or asking, "do you love me?"
I can still only speak for myself but action does speak louder but sometimes at the expense of covering or concealing the actual reasons behind why can't you say it! Maybe you as a woman have this same issue, not all the time but if and when this issue arises, how do we respond?
Talk to me Mars...this is just my entitled opinion.
Remembering that only if they, our men, really feel love for us, women, really then can these words at particular times can be naturally said.
I love you,
Jerri of Mars
Wednesday, July 27, 2011
A quick note to you,
Good day Mars,
I have one more week here in GA. I've been having a great time, to say the least. I have not been writing but I will be back in effect in August. Lots of love!
I have one more week here in GA. I've been having a great time, to say the least. I have not been writing but I will be back in effect in August. Lots of love!
Monday, July 18, 2011
Being conscious in today's society
To God be all the glory, honor and praise, for the marvelous things He has done!
Good day Mars,
I am finally going on a long over due vacation. So much has happened since my last post, let's see...mothers have now been given a free pass to allow fatal accidents to happen to their children, cover it up, hide the body, never report it to authorities and there's more, go partying and blame others for kidnapping after 31 days, whew, that's a lot. And the verdict is "guilty" of lying with time served.
This is why it is extremely important to reach out to mothers in distress. Especially young mothers who have not a clue, like us all, when we're faced with first time mothering. What are the signs of distress? Probably, irritability, ignoring a child's cries, yelling, unnecessarily hitting, just to name a few. I'm sure you can add to this. Not every mother who displays such signs are in innate distress but we shouldn't turn our backs. Perhaps we could politely ask if they would like some assistance. In any instance just don't ignore them and walk away.
I was in the grocery store yesterday and a little girl about 6 yrs old was crying. Now I could of just kept walking out the door but her cry was desperate, not one of "I want something and I'm gonna cry until I get it" but I stopped to seek further and she started to call for her mother. Well I saw another woman walking towards her and asking what the problem was and the little girl said she lost her mother. I asked the woman was she going to take care of her and she said "yes", also a store representative got involved, so I left.
Never, ever ignore a child's cry because you never know what's the matter. We can often hear and think, oh they're with their parent(s) so they're safe but that could be just our perception.
In the case of Leiby Kletzky, that precious soul thought he was safe in his own segregated community. Asking a stranger? What exactly is a stranger? What do we actually tell or describe who strangers are to them. To me a stranger is someone I do not know, even if someone I do know, is familiar with that person. We must be specific, children are very bright but still when their lost, like all of us become vulnerable, such as Leiby. He saw a man that looked just like "all the men" in his neighborhood, so where did he go wrong? My son is 20 and I tell him to this day, if you ever get lost, go to a nearby store and ask the workers. At least their in the area everyday and can't take you on a wild goose chase. This is only after you have searched for a police officer.
It's hard out here, we don't know who to trust, with GPS in our cells, that still can be difficult. We tried that app on Saturday in the city, low and behold the GPS couldn't tell us the store was right under our feet, underground in a building. We were looking intensely but we found the store.
Jerri of Mars
Good day Mars,
I am finally going on a long over due vacation. So much has happened since my last post, let's see...mothers have now been given a free pass to allow fatal accidents to happen to their children, cover it up, hide the body, never report it to authorities and there's more, go partying and blame others for kidnapping after 31 days, whew, that's a lot. And the verdict is "guilty" of lying with time served.
This is why it is extremely important to reach out to mothers in distress. Especially young mothers who have not a clue, like us all, when we're faced with first time mothering. What are the signs of distress? Probably, irritability, ignoring a child's cries, yelling, unnecessarily hitting, just to name a few. I'm sure you can add to this. Not every mother who displays such signs are in innate distress but we shouldn't turn our backs. Perhaps we could politely ask if they would like some assistance. In any instance just don't ignore them and walk away.
I was in the grocery store yesterday and a little girl about 6 yrs old was crying. Now I could of just kept walking out the door but her cry was desperate, not one of "I want something and I'm gonna cry until I get it" but I stopped to seek further and she started to call for her mother. Well I saw another woman walking towards her and asking what the problem was and the little girl said she lost her mother. I asked the woman was she going to take care of her and she said "yes", also a store representative got involved, so I left.
Never, ever ignore a child's cry because you never know what's the matter. We can often hear and think, oh they're with their parent(s) so they're safe but that could be just our perception.
In the case of Leiby Kletzky, that precious soul thought he was safe in his own segregated community. Asking a stranger? What exactly is a stranger? What do we actually tell or describe who strangers are to them. To me a stranger is someone I do not know, even if someone I do know, is familiar with that person. We must be specific, children are very bright but still when their lost, like all of us become vulnerable, such as Leiby. He saw a man that looked just like "all the men" in his neighborhood, so where did he go wrong? My son is 20 and I tell him to this day, if you ever get lost, go to a nearby store and ask the workers. At least their in the area everyday and can't take you on a wild goose chase. This is only after you have searched for a police officer.
It's hard out here, we don't know who to trust, with GPS in our cells, that still can be difficult. We tried that app on Saturday in the city, low and behold the GPS couldn't tell us the store was right under our feet, underground in a building. We were looking intensely but we found the store.
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| In a heavenly place now, rest Leiby in peace with God |
Think about it, getting away with murder, children getting lost whether crying for their mother or asking a stranger, its all scary. Never forget to reach out and reach back, let's start being more conscious of our surroundings, this was how little Leiby was found. Somebody was conscious and remembered that face, we will never forget.
God bless you,Jerri of Mars
Saturday, July 9, 2011
Good day Mars,
I do very deeply apologize for not responding in such a long time but sooo much has been happening. I'm not sure if I shared this but I did get "laid off" but that's not what delayed my blogging to you. Guess what? I no longer have a computer. Can you imagine, not having access to the very thing that promotes and encourages not only me but you my dear hearts as well. So, I been reduced to getting up, oh by the way, I'm on summer vacation, so now I must get up and go to the library. I know, get up Jerri! Besides the library is only one block away.
I will leave you with this, raising boys alone can be easy if you apply daily prayer and basic instructions to life. We all need this, right? I've been bonding more with my 6'2 son. He decided after all these years that he now wants to dance and not just any dance but Chris Brown, Usher and Michael Jackson, dance! I know its funny because this child of mine has never had an once of rhythem. So, now he's constantly watching that dance show produced by Marlon Jackson and hosted by Mario Sanchez. I can't think of the name but he is also sliding all over the house, trying to do the robot like Michael from that song Dancing Machine. Oh, it real halarious. I just remind him not to break his bones nor my furniture. Life is good and all is well. Remember, whatever your son wants to do, that's positive, please encourage and cultivate it. Even if he looks silly, as long as he's happy, your happy right?!
I will be going on vacation and will be writing from that location, look out for more post. And again, sorry it took so long. I love you all!! The library is closing gotta go.
Jerri of Mars
I do very deeply apologize for not responding in such a long time but sooo much has been happening. I'm not sure if I shared this but I did get "laid off" but that's not what delayed my blogging to you. Guess what? I no longer have a computer. Can you imagine, not having access to the very thing that promotes and encourages not only me but you my dear hearts as well. So, I been reduced to getting up, oh by the way, I'm on summer vacation, so now I must get up and go to the library. I know, get up Jerri! Besides the library is only one block away.
I will leave you with this, raising boys alone can be easy if you apply daily prayer and basic instructions to life. We all need this, right? I've been bonding more with my 6'2 son. He decided after all these years that he now wants to dance and not just any dance but Chris Brown, Usher and Michael Jackson, dance! I know its funny because this child of mine has never had an once of rhythem. So, now he's constantly watching that dance show produced by Marlon Jackson and hosted by Mario Sanchez. I can't think of the name but he is also sliding all over the house, trying to do the robot like Michael from that song Dancing Machine. Oh, it real halarious. I just remind him not to break his bones nor my furniture. Life is good and all is well. Remember, whatever your son wants to do, that's positive, please encourage and cultivate it. Even if he looks silly, as long as he's happy, your happy right?!
I will be going on vacation and will be writing from that location, look out for more post. And again, sorry it took so long. I love you all!! The library is closing gotta go.
Jerri of Mars
Thursday, June 23, 2011
Pray and faint not...
Good day Mars,
My prayers are that your sons have had an opportunity to connect with their fathers on that special day, that has so quickly come and gone. Also that they will continue the process of connection as times goes by. My son did. He went early to see his dad and said the man slept for a few hours before he got up and did something "worthwhile".
I spoke with a man who has several children "out of wedlock" but he claims his position as a father is good. I would love to hear his children's story. The bible says to believe no man...for the most part, his oldest son is incarcerated. He wrote and sent him a card that was touching as well as humorous. He also stated that his son proclaims that he is a good dad and even quoted one his favorite sayings from his dad.
On that note, we need to "talk" to our sons and to their fathers too. Bishop TD Jakes made a startling analogy, he said, "women have heard men moan, curse and even preach but they have never heard them talk". This is so true for most of us, right. I mean we know their favorite color, what foods they like, etc...but how are they coping with life? Being a father, a son themselves, a brother, uncle, a man that just happens to be black, the list goes on. The Bishop also said, "its hard being a man!" I guess it is, because it is very hard being a woman, single, black, hard working, parents deceased and brothers in other countries(speaking for myself).
However always know that the words we speak to our sons (daughters) do not fall on deaf ears. Think about it, everything your parents told you manage to sprout up at the most opportune times, right? The bible says, 'that our labor is not in vain, if we labor in Him', (I'm paraphrasing).
My prayers are that your sons have had an opportunity to connect with their fathers on that special day, that has so quickly come and gone. Also that they will continue the process of connection as times goes by. My son did. He went early to see his dad and said the man slept for a few hours before he got up and did something "worthwhile".
I spoke with a man who has several children "out of wedlock" but he claims his position as a father is good. I would love to hear his children's story. The bible says to believe no man...for the most part, his oldest son is incarcerated. He wrote and sent him a card that was touching as well as humorous. He also stated that his son proclaims that he is a good dad and even quoted one his favorite sayings from his dad.
On that note, we need to "talk" to our sons and to their fathers too. Bishop TD Jakes made a startling analogy, he said, "women have heard men moan, curse and even preach but they have never heard them talk". This is so true for most of us, right. I mean we know their favorite color, what foods they like, etc...but how are they coping with life? Being a father, a son themselves, a brother, uncle, a man that just happens to be black, the list goes on. The Bishop also said, "its hard being a man!" I guess it is, because it is very hard being a woman, single, black, hard working, parents deceased and brothers in other countries(speaking for myself).
However always know that the words we speak to our sons (daughters) do not fall on deaf ears. Think about it, everything your parents told you manage to sprout up at the most opportune times, right? The bible says, 'that our labor is not in vain, if we labor in Him', (I'm paraphrasing).
So, be encouraged and continue to run the race that is placed before you. Do not faint and never stop praying, knowing that what we ask Jesus in accordance to His will, will be granted because it glorifies the Father. Be careful what you pray for!
Grace & Peace,
Jerri of Mars
Friday, June 10, 2011
Bringing fathers back...by any means necessary!
Good day Mars,
First of all, I must share...my baby boy or to put it honestly my young man is away this weekend. He went to a gaming conference with 10 of his friends, out to NJ. His first time, away to another state w/out me, a class trip or church outing. So, I googled his hotel and they picked a very nice one with great amenities. He called me just a few minutes ago and reassured me that all is well.
You know he tried to give a challenge about submitting the hotel information to me, but I had to pull out some big names to call regarding this matter, like my brother and his father, then he reconsidered. You know my son thinks because he's 6'2 and 20 yrs old, um that he's grown. He went as far to accuse me of "not trusting him" and how I can't call him every hour. Well, I have to confess that my lil feelings were hurt. I even woke up with an attitude. By the time he came to give me a hug/kiss goodbye; he sensed my distance. He said, "mom you can call me", but I decided to text him instead. OK, I called him once, during my lunch hour. He was only gone 3 hours by then. I know, I'm bad but he's not just my son, he's my buddy! My dad used to say, we act more like brother and sister, but he knows I'm mom, the Queen!
So Mars, as Father's Day draws near, let's start to find suggestive ways to speak positively about our son's dad. I will be apart of a free virtual tele-conference for parents through an organization named, Raising Him Alone(RHA), pls google them. These brothers' are headquartered out of Maryland in conjunction with changingfatherhood.com. Speaking of Maryland, it's one of the wealthiest states in the USA(a lil trivia). OK back to this forum: conference call...they will be discussing the crisis concerning fatherlessness, the drama and trauma surrounding African American communities. They have been trying to reunite fathers, sons and families for several years now. Whether our fathers MIA was due to incarceration, drugs, and/or despondency the list goes on, fathers want/need to go back and reunite. So, if you know a father who desires to do this very thing, encourage him. Also, if you know of a mother that is not having it, encourage her too, let her know the relationship is important to her child. In the end, it's all about the total well-being of our son(s) as well as daughters.
Remember, we're never alone unless we choose to be...God is still the greatest father.
Jerri of Mars
First of all, I must share...my baby boy or to put it honestly my young man is away this weekend. He went to a gaming conference with 10 of his friends, out to NJ. His first time, away to another state w/out me, a class trip or church outing. So, I googled his hotel and they picked a very nice one with great amenities. He called me just a few minutes ago and reassured me that all is well.
You know he tried to give a challenge about submitting the hotel information to me, but I had to pull out some big names to call regarding this matter, like my brother and his father, then he reconsidered. You know my son thinks because he's 6'2 and 20 yrs old, um that he's grown. He went as far to accuse me of "not trusting him" and how I can't call him every hour. Well, I have to confess that my lil feelings were hurt. I even woke up with an attitude. By the time he came to give me a hug/kiss goodbye; he sensed my distance. He said, "mom you can call me", but I decided to text him instead. OK, I called him once, during my lunch hour. He was only gone 3 hours by then. I know, I'm bad but he's not just my son, he's my buddy! My dad used to say, we act more like brother and sister, but he knows I'm mom, the Queen!
So Mars, as Father's Day draws near, let's start to find suggestive ways to speak positively about our son's dad. I will be apart of a free virtual tele-conference for parents through an organization named, Raising Him Alone(RHA), pls google them. These brothers' are headquartered out of Maryland in conjunction with changingfatherhood.com. Speaking of Maryland, it's one of the wealthiest states in the USA(a lil trivia). OK back to this forum: conference call...they will be discussing the crisis concerning fatherlessness, the drama and trauma surrounding African American communities. They have been trying to reunite fathers, sons and families for several years now. Whether our fathers MIA was due to incarceration, drugs, and/or despondency the list goes on, fathers want/need to go back and reunite. So, if you know a father who desires to do this very thing, encourage him. Also, if you know of a mother that is not having it, encourage her too, let her know the relationship is important to her child. In the end, it's all about the total well-being of our son(s) as well as daughters.Remember, we're never alone unless we choose to be...God is still the greatest father.
Jerri of Mars
Thursday, June 2, 2011
Good day Mars,
I'm perplexed today...first I love this weather! and next I just read an article regarding raising "black" males in single parent households which made me angry. True, the statistics are not good but that's the world's business. In the kingdom, we have all we need to successfully raise positive black males, right!
Yes, our jails, graves, and mental institutions are filled with our brothers, sons, nephews and others alike. But, so is the corporate sectors, universities, and government jobs too.
In this article one fool went as far to say, 'single mothers depend on the government to raise their sons', 'we try to template single parenting', and 'we should make our own sperm if we don't think we need fathers'.
Now, I'm really heated. These comments are only worth repeating to let you know just how negative, evil and inconsiderate those kind are. Most folk don't believe we promote single parenting, no never! Mars agrees and bears witness that "we need fathers" and if you disagree then we'll continue to pray for those moms. Nobody, no woman, in her "right" mind, would rather raise a child alone.
Now I know there are some that because of life altering circumstances, would go as far to seeking out a sperm bank (not sperm donors) or a surrogate mother to have a child. Even in cases where the child needs to be protected. This is another topic, but I will say this, please if you know somebody out there considering this type of predicament, let them know that a "father figure" is still very necessary for either girl or boy. Nobody should do this alone.
It's one of the hardest jobs in the world and all the money in Egypt will not make up for the lack of hands-on, emotional and physical support.
But, I hear God say, trust in Him always, and lean not unto your own understanding but in all your ways acknowledge Him and He will direct your path! Proverbs 3:4-5.
The kingdom of God has and will continue to make their own statistics. So please, like I always suggest to you Mars, reach and give back to someone else who is less fortunate than you. Be led by God...
Jerri of Mars
I'm perplexed today...first I love this weather! and next I just read an article regarding raising "black" males in single parent households which made me angry. True, the statistics are not good but that's the world's business. In the kingdom, we have all we need to successfully raise positive black males, right!
Yes, our jails, graves, and mental institutions are filled with our brothers, sons, nephews and others alike. But, so is the corporate sectors, universities, and government jobs too.
In this article one fool went as far to say, 'single mothers depend on the government to raise their sons', 'we try to template single parenting', and 'we should make our own sperm if we don't think we need fathers'.
Now, I'm really heated. These comments are only worth repeating to let you know just how negative, evil and inconsiderate those kind are. Most folk don't believe we promote single parenting, no never! Mars agrees and bears witness that "we need fathers" and if you disagree then we'll continue to pray for those moms. Nobody, no woman, in her "right" mind, would rather raise a child alone.
Now I know there are some that because of life altering circumstances, would go as far to seeking out a sperm bank (not sperm donors) or a surrogate mother to have a child. Even in cases where the child needs to be protected. This is another topic, but I will say this, please if you know somebody out there considering this type of predicament, let them know that a "father figure" is still very necessary for either girl or boy. Nobody should do this alone.
It's one of the hardest jobs in the world and all the money in Egypt will not make up for the lack of hands-on, emotional and physical support.
But, I hear God say, trust in Him always, and lean not unto your own understanding but in all your ways acknowledge Him and He will direct your path! Proverbs 3:4-5.
The kingdom of God has and will continue to make their own statistics. So please, like I always suggest to you Mars, reach and give back to someone else who is less fortunate than you. Be led by God...
Jerri of Mars
Monday, May 23, 2011
Mama's Boy? part 2
Here I go again Mars,
So, when our sons start to date, we will refrain from putting in our 2 cents and giving a "piece" of mind, all the time. Trust what we have instilled in them. Let them go, continue to have conversations with them, also check out the females they tend to sway towards, you might or mightn't find yourself, but a girl totally opposite of you. This is alright, though.
My son seems to have a fancy for very light skin girls of Latin decent. I do know for sure that they will not be a "loud mouth" like his momma, sorry to say. He has helped me in that area, when nobody else could and I respect him for that. He dislikes yelling.
The right God-sent husband-to-be will know what to say and when to step in or not. There needs to be someone, close to you both, that when you cannot get through, then that person will get on board. Remember Mars, you can't do this alone and you are not suppose to either. Don't be like Mama Jones and treat your son like a boy or "your man", he's neither. God is always in control.
Sincerely,
Jerri of Mars
So, when our sons start to date, we will refrain from putting in our 2 cents and giving a "piece" of mind, all the time. Trust what we have instilled in them. Let them go, continue to have conversations with them, also check out the females they tend to sway towards, you might or mightn't find yourself, but a girl totally opposite of you. This is alright, though.
My son seems to have a fancy for very light skin girls of Latin decent. I do know for sure that they will not be a "loud mouth" like his momma, sorry to say. He has helped me in that area, when nobody else could and I respect him for that. He dislikes yelling.
When our son becomes working paper eligible, I can only suggest the following:
1. Do his own laundry.
2. Wash his dishes and be shown how to spot clean aka sweep, wipe off things, esp the toilet/sink after each use (we know about pee pee stains)
3. Clean his own room and in his time not yours (no need in constantly yelling about his messy room) if it gets too dirty just close the door, in his own time, he'll clean it.
4. If he does not get a summer job by age 14 then he should get an allowance for doing some chores (regularly and only if you can afford to) Cleaning his room is not a chore! its an obligation.
[I only suggest an allowance to start teaching him about being financially responsible]
[I only suggest an allowance to start teaching him about being financially responsible]
5. He should be taught early to earn his own money and save for those finer things in life (cell phone, expensive sneakers, designer clothes, etc) that teens often lusts after.
6. Company should only come over if he keeps up his part of these responsibilities and especially if his room is clean. You see now the room gets cleaned!
These are just a few, but only if there tried, you will see there proven to work! My prayer is that as a mother you're practicing these things already. If you don't have a regime or routine in life then he probably will not either. Talk to him and only raise your voice if absolutely necessary. He's growing older and he needs to be shown respect. To much is given much is required. Involve responsible men (your father, uncle, godfather, brother) in the lives of the two of you. Not your "man", pardon the expression, especially if he's not in touch with his own or have none. Even if your engaged to be married to someone other that his father, you still need to proceed with caution. Our sons cannot be bought or bargained with, so the man can keep his gifts. Some men will try this tactic so he can gain our sons favor, only to obtain time with us, but what happens when he leaves? Another topic for another time. The right God-sent husband-to-be will know what to say and when to step in or not. There needs to be someone, close to you both, that when you cannot get through, then that person will get on board. Remember Mars, you can't do this alone and you are not suppose to either. Don't be like Mama Jones and treat your son like a boy or "your man", he's neither. God is always in control.
Sincerely,
Jerri of Mars
Thursday, May 19, 2011
A Mama's Boy?
Ok Mars,
I will admit, I watch Love & Hip Hop and the finale was on the other night. All I want to say is Chrissy (rapper Jim Jones girlfriend) is a strong and sophisticated young lady. She has standards and although she has been "living in sin" (her exact words) with Jim Jones for 6 years; she's adamant about getting married and having children. In that order!
After waiting patiently for Jones to "grow up", she decided to propose to him. Well, his M-O-T-H-E-R, as she likes to spell out (with her crazy self) had a hissy fit. What does Jones do? Nothing! He sits back and allows his mother and girlfriend to go at it, but never too far in front of him.
I'm saying all this just to say, Jim Jones is a Mama's Boy! This characteristic is fine, if your under age 10 but by his 20's and 30's, and after he's found a woman that he loves; it's time to put those boyish ways aside. When a grown man, so he appears and like to believe he is; allows his mama to run his life, then he needs to do some serious soul searching. Mamas' too!
Mars, we can only be responsible for ourselves because even though they're our baby boys literally; they are not to be treated or psychologically considered as one. This is why I write to you. As our boys grow older, we need to make very sure that we've instilled in them the necessary qualities that should and will sustain them. This way they will not continue to be led by our ideologies. Mothers if you don't start to get a life by the time your boys become age 10, then you need to start now!
I want to keep this topic short so I will write part 2 in a few days, until then...remember you are not alone. We have a Father who is a very present help in our times of need, seek Him.
Blesses,
Jerri of Mars
I will admit, I watch Love & Hip Hop and the finale was on the other night. All I want to say is Chrissy (rapper Jim Jones girlfriend) is a strong and sophisticated young lady. She has standards and although she has been "living in sin" (her exact words) with Jim Jones for 6 years; she's adamant about getting married and having children. In that order!
After waiting patiently for Jones to "grow up", she decided to propose to him. Well, his M-O-T-H-E-R, as she likes to spell out (with her crazy self) had a hissy fit. What does Jones do? Nothing! He sits back and allows his mother and girlfriend to go at it, but never too far in front of him.
I'm saying all this just to say, Jim Jones is a Mama's Boy! This characteristic is fine, if your under age 10 but by his 20's and 30's, and after he's found a woman that he loves; it's time to put those boyish ways aside. When a grown man, so he appears and like to believe he is; allows his mama to run his life, then he needs to do some serious soul searching. Mamas' too!
Mars, we can only be responsible for ourselves because even though they're our baby boys literally; they are not to be treated or psychologically considered as one. This is why I write to you. As our boys grow older, we need to make very sure that we've instilled in them the necessary qualities that should and will sustain them. This way they will not continue to be led by our ideologies. Mothers if you don't start to get a life by the time your boys become age 10, then you need to start now!
I want to keep this topic short so I will write part 2 in a few days, until then...remember you are not alone. We have a Father who is a very present help in our times of need, seek Him.
Blesses,
Jerri of Mars
Wednesday, May 11, 2011
Dear Mars,
As I sit here again thinking of what to write about, I would like to first say thanks to all of you that don't mind my weekly interruptions into your lives. I'm just trying to do what God told me too as well as give and reach back to bless others with what He has bestowed upon me.
Sistah Valerie, I may have told you this but I will say it again, I know you are not a mother but your a prayer warrior. So, continue to pray for our mothers raising sons alone, I love you!
I hear God saying, long suffering: This word appears in the bible 16 times. For the record, according to the dictionary, it means to patiently endure as a noun and as an adjective means to endure patiently difficulties or hard times. Did I also mention that longsuffering is done by not complaining, being capable. Are we capable?
As one of the nine fruits of the Spirit (Galatians 5:22) one would have to be given this by God in order to endure or have the capacity to endure as a good servant of the Lord. We must believe and know that God is longsuffering in His mercies towards us. If we want to reign with Jesus we must also suffer with Him.
I'm saying all this because we're in hard times in which all of you are aware, so let's not lose sight of God, who's in control. When we go through hardship via sickness, death, despair, loss of job, stolen properties, strains with in our relationships with friends, families and associates, etc...do know that God must be in control if we're going to come out successfully. Also, don't forget that we will come out but its how we go through that God and others look at.
God spoke to me about my son and his purpose in Him; that he is a prince. I said God, a prince? Yes, prince means Israel: one who prevails for God and man. Now when I hear and see how he, my son, is going through his spiritual walk, my fleshly eyes cannot see because they are deceiving. However, I remember what God said, and then my spiritual eyes and ears open up. So, hearing my sistah Kim give her testimony about her son, my godson, I reminded to believe God.
It's hard and difficult to see our love ones go through even when they don't even know they are or don't quite understand, but remind them that God's in control.
God allows my vulnerability to be manifested to my son, even very early in the morning when I think he's sleeping. As I pray and cry out to God with my gratitudes, cares and requests, my son somehow knows when to come into my room and ask me questions. Then there are times when he knows that I'm interceding for others to God and he doesn't bother. Even God's in control of times like that.
So, let's not be so cold, hard hearted and stiff-necked with our cares. Express them to the capable ears of the Almighty, Jehovah Shammah. He tells us to cast our cares upon Him, why? because He cares for us. Who else can care for us like the Father? Who holds the entire world in the palm of His hand? Who took His perfect finger and carved out the valleys and with His magnificent hands molded the mountains? God is great and great is His name. So, minute are our cares and longsufferings as mentioned above. Let's get back to the basics, His plan is simplistic, let go of ours and grab a hold of His. God's plan has already been accomplished, so why not get on His and go through. Were only going to come out as pure gold being the lump of coal that we are. Coals are made to be purified, made to withstand the most hottest of heat, like the Hebrew boys. God is in this with us, He's not looking down cheering for us, He is Here! Jehovah Shammah. (Psalms 139[read it]).
Always in love with Jesus,
Jerri of Mars
As I sit here again thinking of what to write about, I would like to first say thanks to all of you that don't mind my weekly interruptions into your lives. I'm just trying to do what God told me too as well as give and reach back to bless others with what He has bestowed upon me.
Sistah Valerie, I may have told you this but I will say it again, I know you are not a mother but your a prayer warrior. So, continue to pray for our mothers raising sons alone, I love you!
I hear God saying, long suffering: This word appears in the bible 16 times. For the record, according to the dictionary, it means to patiently endure as a noun and as an adjective means to endure patiently difficulties or hard times. Did I also mention that longsuffering is done by not complaining, being capable. Are we capable?
As one of the nine fruits of the Spirit (Galatians 5:22) one would have to be given this by God in order to endure or have the capacity to endure as a good servant of the Lord. We must believe and know that God is longsuffering in His mercies towards us. If we want to reign with Jesus we must also suffer with Him.
I'm saying all this because we're in hard times in which all of you are aware, so let's not lose sight of God, who's in control. When we go through hardship via sickness, death, despair, loss of job, stolen properties, strains with in our relationships with friends, families and associates, etc...do know that God must be in control if we're going to come out successfully. Also, don't forget that we will come out but its how we go through that God and others look at.
God spoke to me about my son and his purpose in Him; that he is a prince. I said God, a prince? Yes, prince means Israel: one who prevails for God and man. Now when I hear and see how he, my son, is going through his spiritual walk, my fleshly eyes cannot see because they are deceiving. However, I remember what God said, and then my spiritual eyes and ears open up. So, hearing my sistah Kim give her testimony about her son, my godson, I reminded to believe God.
It's hard and difficult to see our love ones go through even when they don't even know they are or don't quite understand, but remind them that God's in control.
God allows my vulnerability to be manifested to my son, even very early in the morning when I think he's sleeping. As I pray and cry out to God with my gratitudes, cares and requests, my son somehow knows when to come into my room and ask me questions. Then there are times when he knows that I'm interceding for others to God and he doesn't bother. Even God's in control of times like that.
So, let's not be so cold, hard hearted and stiff-necked with our cares. Express them to the capable ears of the Almighty, Jehovah Shammah. He tells us to cast our cares upon Him, why? because He cares for us. Who else can care for us like the Father? Who holds the entire world in the palm of His hand? Who took His perfect finger and carved out the valleys and with His magnificent hands molded the mountains? God is great and great is His name. So, minute are our cares and longsufferings as mentioned above. Let's get back to the basics, His plan is simplistic, let go of ours and grab a hold of His. God's plan has already been accomplished, so why not get on His and go through. Were only going to come out as pure gold being the lump of coal that we are. Coals are made to be purified, made to withstand the most hottest of heat, like the Hebrew boys. God is in this with us, He's not looking down cheering for us, He is Here! Jehovah Shammah. (Psalms 139[read it]).
Always in love with Jesus,
Jerri of Mars
Wednesday, May 4, 2011
Happy Mother's Day...
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| African Violets |
To all the mothers out there in the land of Mars. Although this day is and should be celebrated everyday; let those who desire to appreciate you, love on you, lather you with gifts, money and whatever else they choose to give big or small because all that really counts is the thought.
If somebody YOU think does not acknowledge you please don't take it personal because in the end it's God's love bestowed upon us that really matters most. This is the day...
Always,
Jerri of Mars
Thursday, April 28, 2011
Who's mind is stayed on Thee...
Hey Mars,
As I sit here praying about what should I write, I hear the Holy Spirit say, Peace!
I know we all can use some of this. You see this peace is not from the world, but the kind that comes directly from the Father.
He says, "Peace I leave with you; my peace I give you. I do not give to you as the world..." This peace is perfect in all its ways. When your mind is going crazy with thoughts, peace. When your body is wrapped in pain, peace. When that non-driver cuts you off and you want to give him or her the little piece of mind you have left, peace! I can't sleep at night, and I'm tired of tossing and turning, peace! My children are acting like complete strangers, peace. Will this nightmare ever end, type of peace.
Oh, but the peace of God, perfect in all its ways. Peace that rolls like the rivers still waters, birds chirping, dew on my feet in the grassy meadows while the sun shines on me like I'm the star because in His eyes I am. Just sheer perfection. I heard somebody say, it passes all understanding which guards our hearts and mind in Christ Jesus. Some folk can't understand; why, you have not totally lost your mind. They only know what you've allowed them to hear and yet if the truth be told, you've cried all night long. Only to get up the next morning, as if nothing else matters because it really doesn't. You washed your face until it glowed. Took the hottest shower you could stand and cried some more. Now, here's the good part, you heard the Spirit say, "stop all that weeping, its morning", ha, oh yea speak Lord. Put yo good face on, combed your hair and stepped out the door, feeling and looking rather wonderful. What just happened? You ask yourself.
This is what that perfect peace causes one to do. Let Jesus speak to your storm, be still and know that He Is God! Only those that are His can pass this type of understanding concerning peace, did I say "pass"; oh you didn't know this was all and only a test. Did you pass the last one? If not remember to pass the next one. They get harder, but to those who practice prayer, supplication and thanksgiving, are often prepared. Again, this is not just any peace but the perfect peace of God and His son, who is the Prince of Peace...
Peace, love and soul,
Jerri of Mars
I know we all can use some of this. You see this peace is not from the world, but the kind that comes directly from the Father.
He says, "Peace I leave with you; my peace I give you. I do not give to you as the world..." This peace is perfect in all its ways. When your mind is going crazy with thoughts, peace. When your body is wrapped in pain, peace. When that non-driver cuts you off and you want to give him or her the little piece of mind you have left, peace! I can't sleep at night, and I'm tired of tossing and turning, peace! My children are acting like complete strangers, peace. Will this nightmare ever end, type of peace.
Oh, but the peace of God, perfect in all its ways. Peace that rolls like the rivers still waters, birds chirping, dew on my feet in the grassy meadows while the sun shines on me like I'm the star because in His eyes I am. Just sheer perfection. I heard somebody say, it passes all understanding which guards our hearts and mind in Christ Jesus. Some folk can't understand; why, you have not totally lost your mind. They only know what you've allowed them to hear and yet if the truth be told, you've cried all night long. Only to get up the next morning, as if nothing else matters because it really doesn't. You washed your face until it glowed. Took the hottest shower you could stand and cried some more. Now, here's the good part, you heard the Spirit say, "stop all that weeping, its morning", ha, oh yea speak Lord. Put yo good face on, combed your hair and stepped out the door, feeling and looking rather wonderful. What just happened? You ask yourself.
This is what that perfect peace causes one to do. Let Jesus speak to your storm, be still and know that He Is God! Only those that are His can pass this type of understanding concerning peace, did I say "pass"; oh you didn't know this was all and only a test. Did you pass the last one? If not remember to pass the next one. They get harder, but to those who practice prayer, supplication and thanksgiving, are often prepared. Again, this is not just any peace but the perfect peace of God and His son, who is the Prince of Peace...
Peace, love and soul,
Jerri of Mars
Thursday, April 21, 2011
Lets go CrAzY!!! (a loving story)
Hey Mars,
I thought I'd share my "giving back" episode on yesterday. First of all, just because my son is 20 and self sufficient, is not an opportunity to take off my bra and start swinging from the vines, screaming I'm free. No, no, no but it is about giving back to other mothers for support, love and encouragement. So, getting back to yesterday...Ok, I'm on vacation and invited my god-daughter (10 yr old) with her mom, 8 yr old brother, and 18 yr old sister, to spend the night. They got here late Tuesday evening so I suggested they stay one mo night.
Here's the kicker, I also scheduled a play date with my other three babies for Wednesday. I schedule these times with them on our vacations. These precious Bebe's
(my niece/nephews) are a set of twins (5 yr old: boy/girl) and another 8 yr old brother.
Oh, here's the other thing, you know I have several "other mothers"; so, I went with her to the doctors yesterday morning. This took an hour longer than anticipated. So, by the times I got back to the house there were: 2 mothers, 2 five year old, 2 eight year old, 1 ten year old, an 18 year old and my loving son, 20 yr old.
He was half crazy because our once peaceful and humble abode was now consumed with pure energy, that at any moment was destined to get chaotic.
As I was walking home, my plan was to take all that energy and walk them to the grocery store. We did, but when we got back to the house, it was time for crazy. In my teacher mind, I am always thinking structure, planning, and innovation. When you're amongst this varied age group you have to be proactive. There needs to be a wow factor especially for the younger ones, so I showed them how to "puree" assorted vegetables to mix into our homemade tomato sauce.
As you know, its hard to get kids to eat vegetables but they love spaghetti, so we killed two birds with one stone. Now, I put the 10 year old on bathroom duty, you know making sure hands were being washed and water playing was at a minimum. The 18 year old was overseeing movie watching and video game sharing. We had popcorn, juice and Redbox. Now, mother and I can cook dinner, but not without the constant interruptions into my very small, galley way kitchen. You know just as quick as they tried to invade they were immediately eradicated.
Before the night was over, I took the younger girls and treated them to a good ole homemade nail salon manicure. Bring out the sparkles! Did I also mention that I offered to take out my nieces very small cornrows and she's tender headed, yea. There's a method to that madness too, take them out in parts and we managed. She's the best!
Ok, moving on, my loving son return from work and chimed right in with the supervision of the Wii Sports gaming.
Before I knew it was 9:30 pm aka shut it down time. Oh, mother needed her brown juice (that's Pepsi on the rocks) and the house which was once crazy was now back to being peaceful and humble. However, I awoke this morning feeling like I had a hangover with some real brown juice! Thank God for my dear sistah, another mother of Mars, who walked me right into Venus with some good ole girl talk.
Mars, let's not forget those people who took your child or children off your hands for a view hours, so that you can usher in a peaceful mind set because being on Mars has its own issues. So, use your "free time" wisely and don't remember to also give back to other mothers who may need the same.
In the words of Monique: "We love you for free, sugar!" now wrapped your arms around yourself and give yourself a big hug. Until next time, don't just look back, give back!
Always,
Jerri of Mars
I thought I'd share my "giving back" episode on yesterday. First of all, just because my son is 20 and self sufficient, is not an opportunity to take off my bra and start swinging from the vines, screaming I'm free. No, no, no but it is about giving back to other mothers for support, love and encouragement. So, getting back to yesterday...Ok, I'm on vacation and invited my god-daughter (10 yr old) with her mom, 8 yr old brother, and 18 yr old sister, to spend the night. They got here late Tuesday evening so I suggested they stay one mo night.
Here's the kicker, I also scheduled a play date with my other three babies for Wednesday. I schedule these times with them on our vacations. These precious Bebe's
(my niece/nephews) are a set of twins (5 yr old: boy/girl) and another 8 yr old brother.
Oh, here's the other thing, you know I have several "other mothers"; so, I went with her to the doctors yesterday morning. This took an hour longer than anticipated. So, by the times I got back to the house there were: 2 mothers, 2 five year old, 2 eight year old, 1 ten year old, an 18 year old and my loving son, 20 yr old.
He was half crazy because our once peaceful and humble abode was now consumed with pure energy, that at any moment was destined to get chaotic.
As I was walking home, my plan was to take all that energy and walk them to the grocery store. We did, but when we got back to the house, it was time for crazy. In my teacher mind, I am always thinking structure, planning, and innovation. When you're amongst this varied age group you have to be proactive. There needs to be a wow factor especially for the younger ones, so I showed them how to "puree" assorted vegetables to mix into our homemade tomato sauce.
As you know, its hard to get kids to eat vegetables but they love spaghetti, so we killed two birds with one stone. Now, I put the 10 year old on bathroom duty, you know making sure hands were being washed and water playing was at a minimum. The 18 year old was overseeing movie watching and video game sharing. We had popcorn, juice and Redbox. Now, mother and I can cook dinner, but not without the constant interruptions into my very small, galley way kitchen. You know just as quick as they tried to invade they were immediately eradicated.
Before the night was over, I took the younger girls and treated them to a good ole homemade nail salon manicure. Bring out the sparkles! Did I also mention that I offered to take out my nieces very small cornrows and she's tender headed, yea. There's a method to that madness too, take them out in parts and we managed. She's the best!
Ok, moving on, my loving son return from work and chimed right in with the supervision of the Wii Sports gaming.
Before I knew it was 9:30 pm aka shut it down time. Oh, mother needed her brown juice (that's Pepsi on the rocks) and the house which was once crazy was now back to being peaceful and humble. However, I awoke this morning feeling like I had a hangover with some real brown juice! Thank God for my dear sistah, another mother of Mars, who walked me right into Venus with some good ole girl talk.
Mars, let's not forget those people who took your child or children off your hands for a view hours, so that you can usher in a peaceful mind set because being on Mars has its own issues. So, use your "free time" wisely and don't remember to also give back to other mothers who may need the same.
In the words of Monique: "We love you for free, sugar!" now wrapped your arms around yourself and give yourself a big hug. Until next time, don't just look back, give back!
Always,
Jerri of Mars
Tuesday, April 12, 2011
Little boys crying out in the wilderness...
Hey Mars,
Please help me in my distress. Anybody who knows me, can relate to my love for boys. I asked God for a boy; I have seven brothers; two god sons and about seven nephews. I told you this before, but today, no yesterday, if not everyday, I see our young boys being sent to detention. Sistahs, when I look into the room, my heart breaks. Their foreseeable future seems bleak. Now, I try hard not to speak those things but statistics: numbers and the probabilities have not been proven wrong.
I asked a young boy, about the age of 9, "why do you act out in class?". He couldn't answer, so I asked the next possible question, "do you understand the lessons being taught in your classroom?". He answered "no". As we sat and asked him to explain the lesson he was given to complete while in the Principal's office; he let me know in words but could not began to put his thoughts to written words. So, as I literally led him down the pathway to putting his thoughts on paper, he had some difficulty writing a complete sentence. It was hard to watch because, check this out, he will be passed to move on to the sixth grade, with limited skills.
This will affect his chances to survive in middle school, high school and if he graduates, the probability of him becoming a productive citizen.
I frequent this website called, RaisingHimAlone.com, their based out of Maryland, New Jersey and DC. When you get a chance please take a look at the site and take the survey. These are brothers trying to reach back and help mothers and sons, like us,
make it up and out of this crisis. Yes, black and Hispanic boys are the victims of this epidemic. It appears that nobody is really going all out for them. I often feel helpless and I cry for their souls.
So, if you can do something like talk to your pastors, deacons, positive males in your communities, then please ask them to find just ONE. We can start with just one soul at a time, just like Jesus did. And in the end, PRAY! But never give up, don't get mad at them, nor caste them out. We will never get to know their story until we get close enough to inquire of their thoughts.
Remember, it still takes a nation to raise a child and to each one teach one...
Lots of love,
Jerri of Mars
Please help me in my distress. Anybody who knows me, can relate to my love for boys. I asked God for a boy; I have seven brothers; two god sons and about seven nephews. I told you this before, but today, no yesterday, if not everyday, I see our young boys being sent to detention. Sistahs, when I look into the room, my heart breaks. Their foreseeable future seems bleak. Now, I try hard not to speak those things but statistics: numbers and the probabilities have not been proven wrong.
I asked a young boy, about the age of 9, "why do you act out in class?". He couldn't answer, so I asked the next possible question, "do you understand the lessons being taught in your classroom?". He answered "no". As we sat and asked him to explain the lesson he was given to complete while in the Principal's office; he let me know in words but could not began to put his thoughts to written words. So, as I literally led him down the pathway to putting his thoughts on paper, he had some difficulty writing a complete sentence. It was hard to watch because, check this out, he will be passed to move on to the sixth grade, with limited skills.
This will affect his chances to survive in middle school, high school and if he graduates, the probability of him becoming a productive citizen.I frequent this website called, RaisingHimAlone.com, their based out of Maryland, New Jersey and DC. When you get a chance please take a look at the site and take the survey. These are brothers trying to reach back and help mothers and sons, like us,
make it up and out of this crisis. Yes, black and Hispanic boys are the victims of this epidemic. It appears that nobody is really going all out for them. I often feel helpless and I cry for their souls. So, if you can do something like talk to your pastors, deacons, positive males in your communities, then please ask them to find just ONE. We can start with just one soul at a time, just like Jesus did. And in the end, PRAY! But never give up, don't get mad at them, nor caste them out. We will never get to know their story until we get close enough to inquire of their thoughts.
Remember, it still takes a nation to raise a child and to each one teach one...
Lots of love,
Jerri of Mars
Monday, April 4, 2011
Back to mothering
Good day Mars,
Well this past week has been a doozy. My one and only was complaining about stomach pains and then began to vomit, for two days. A couple of months ago, I too was vomiting and was self diagnosed as having a stomach virus. Well, I then to thought that my son had the same, after all he had all the symptoms.
By the next night, at about 3am, he again continued with the obvious symptoms. By morning I decided to stay home and was advised to take him to his doctor. By the time the doctor looked him over, she then strongly suggested to take him to the emergency room. She suspected appendicitis. From 4:30 until 11 pm, he was confirmed and admitted. Surgery was scheduled for 7:30 the next morning: Friday.
Let me kindly express that when your baby turns 16 years/older, you better have monies for a private room because that's the only way you will be able to stay the night, in the hospital with him. Well at least this is what I was told. His father and I went to our separate homes only to return the next morning. His father was 15 minutes too late to see our son to the operating room.
All was well, God is good! But I could not help but feel as though I had let my son down and this is why...We have never had so much as a common cold. Yea, he was stitched up at the tender age of 6 but nothing more than that. My sorrow came during church when my Pastor preached about the veil covering Moses face. This represented God's glory but since Jesus' death the veil has been removed but we like most believers and Jewish people still are living under the old covenant. How is this so, because even now when the word is read, most believers hearts are still dull to God's glory which is His presence through Jesus Christ. In which we live, move and have our being; we are free to stand in His presence and receive His glory. We walk still in darkness, not free which leads to ignorance.
Nobody is exempt, we all at times walk with Jesus and not in Him. He is the truth, the light and the only way back to the father. Being that I am human and sometimes fall in the category of walking with Him, I felt as though I was not on my job, as his parent, to really investigate what was really going on with my son. God had to send someone else to tell me to take him to the doctor. Had it been left up to me and my lack of understanding it could have not been so successful. I don't beat myself up because God looks out for His own, even in our ignorance.
However, I am so very grateful to Him. He is faithful, loving and kind. I totally believe God for healing and if I didn't know anything that night, I knew that our son was going to be just fine. As for his mother, God is not through with me yet and I diligently seek Him. Besides this whole ordeal was about Jibrii getting to know Him as healer and I guess to sharpen me. Remember, iron sharpens iron...
Many blessings,
Jerri of Mars
Well this past week has been a doozy. My one and only was complaining about stomach pains and then began to vomit, for two days. A couple of months ago, I too was vomiting and was self diagnosed as having a stomach virus. Well, I then to thought that my son had the same, after all he had all the symptoms.
By the next night, at about 3am, he again continued with the obvious symptoms. By morning I decided to stay home and was advised to take him to his doctor. By the time the doctor looked him over, she then strongly suggested to take him to the emergency room. She suspected appendicitis. From 4:30 until 11 pm, he was confirmed and admitted. Surgery was scheduled for 7:30 the next morning: Friday.
Let me kindly express that when your baby turns 16 years/older, you better have monies for a private room because that's the only way you will be able to stay the night, in the hospital with him. Well at least this is what I was told. His father and I went to our separate homes only to return the next morning. His father was 15 minutes too late to see our son to the operating room.
All was well, God is good! But I could not help but feel as though I had let my son down and this is why...We have never had so much as a common cold. Yea, he was stitched up at the tender age of 6 but nothing more than that. My sorrow came during church when my Pastor preached about the veil covering Moses face. This represented God's glory but since Jesus' death the veil has been removed but we like most believers and Jewish people still are living under the old covenant. How is this so, because even now when the word is read, most believers hearts are still dull to God's glory which is His presence through Jesus Christ. In which we live, move and have our being; we are free to stand in His presence and receive His glory. We walk still in darkness, not free which leads to ignorance.
Nobody is exempt, we all at times walk with Jesus and not in Him. He is the truth, the light and the only way back to the father. Being that I am human and sometimes fall in the category of walking with Him, I felt as though I was not on my job, as his parent, to really investigate what was really going on with my son. God had to send someone else to tell me to take him to the doctor. Had it been left up to me and my lack of understanding it could have not been so successful. I don't beat myself up because God looks out for His own, even in our ignorance.
However, I am so very grateful to Him. He is faithful, loving and kind. I totally believe God for healing and if I didn't know anything that night, I knew that our son was going to be just fine. As for his mother, God is not through with me yet and I diligently seek Him. Besides this whole ordeal was about Jibrii getting to know Him as healer and I guess to sharpen me. Remember, iron sharpens iron...
Many blessings,
Jerri of Mars
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